Perfection...to be or not to be?

Perfection is in my opinion both unrealistic and unobtainable.
Shame then that so many people keep trying.
The impact of which is so often a tattered sense of self & frayed relationships
From a self care perspective a much better approach is that espoused by Dr David Burns:

"Aim for success, not perfection.
Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life"

PLOM's can leave a bad taste in your mouth

A little more on the PLOM (poor little 'ol me) syndrome mentioned in the last post
PLOM's are great at playing the victim - and we can all do that from time to time - the trick is not to make it a habit!!
To do so means we have all care & no responsibility for anything that happens in our life
Its becomes all about what others have done to us
No responsibility is accepted for anything
Much easier from such a perspective to blame others than to reflect on our own behavior & actions
Such behavior is really challenging for others to work with,
Of course its all about an attempt to control others & our environment
Perhaps a better approach would be a little introspection & to focus on controlling or managing our own responses - which is after all the only thing we can genuinely expect to control
Don't be a PLOM - your colleagues will respect you for it & you will be a joy to be around

Vent or moan?

Let me share my thoughts on a number of indicators that a vent has become a moan :

• the person actually appears to flourish by being part of the problem (I say appears to be because underneath it all this is one very unhappy, unfilled person)
  
• it is about being contemptuous and undermining of colleagues and bosses
• no attempt is being made at solution finding
• it is repetitive; before you left for days off the conversation filled the tea room & still fills the tea room on your return from days off
• the poor little ol me (PLOM) syndrome is in evidence - you know its always about someone else & what they have supposedly done to this person - there is no evidence of reflection of the role the individual who is doing the moaning has in the situation
  

Venting

Venting is a healthy activity
Say what you feel, get it off your chest, talk it over with a trusted friend
and then move on with your life gaining a little wisdom from the experience
What is it however that separates a healthy vent from a destructive moan?
At what point in time does a vent become toxic?