More on perfectionism

Fear is usually what underlies the need for perfectionism, let it go and the world opens up to you

Stories

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Are they venters or moaners?
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PLOM's can leave a bad taste in your mouth

A little more on the PLOM (poor little 'ol me) syndrome mentioned in the last post
PLOM's are great at playing the victim - and we can all do that from time to time - the trick is not to make it a habit!!
To do so means we have all care & no responsibility for anything that happens in our life
Its becomes all about what others have done to us
No responsibility is accepted for anything
Much easier from such a perspective to blame others than to reflect on our own behavior & actions
Such behavior is really challenging for others to work with,
Of course its all about an attempt to control others & our environment
Perhaps a better approach would be a little introspection & to focus on controlling or managing our own responses - which is after all the only thing we can genuinely expect to control
Don't be a PLOM - your colleagues will respect you for it & you will be a joy to be around

Vent or moan?

Let me share my thoughts on a number of indicators that a vent has become a moan :

• the person actually appears to flourish by being part of the problem (I say appears to be because underneath it all this is one very unhappy, unfilled person)
  
• it is about being contemptuous and undermining of colleagues and bosses
• no attempt is being made at solution finding
• it is repetitive; before you left for days off the conversation filled the tea room & still fills the tea room on your return from days off
• the poor little ol me (PLOM) syndrome is in evidence - you know its always about someone else & what they have supposedly done to this person - there is no evidence of reflection of the role the individual who is doing the moaning has in the situation
  

Personal responsibility

Our last post was about personal power

Wanted to share with you a quote from Stephen Covey which sums it up nicely:

"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide

how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."

Exercise your personal power today, the more you exercise it, the stronger it will become

and the more confident you will be in using it

We would love to hear about your challenges and successes

The team at Nurses Self Care