More on perfectionism

Fear is usually what underlies the need for perfectionism, let it go and the world opens up to you

Perfection...to be or not to be?

Perfection is in my opinion both unrealistic and unobtainable.
Shame then that so many people keep trying.
The impact of which is so often a tattered sense of self & frayed relationships
From a self care perspective a much better approach is that espoused by Dr David Burns:

"Aim for success, not perfection.
Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life"

Essential Life Success Strategies

People generally want success in their lives.

But what is success . . . ?

For each of us the answer will differ and that's OK.

The issue will be when we view success as the goal. For it does not necessarily follow that success equates to happiness. When and if we reach our goal of success it often brings unexpected challenges and happiness is not necessarily the outcome.

What is important is to ensure you know what success means to you and view success as a way of life, rather than as a goal. Life, it means so much to some and so little to few. We only get one.

How do you make the most of your life?

How do you live a 'successful' life?

How do you milk every last moment for maximum enjoyment and learn the lessons you were meant to learn?

Top tips for success at life

• Define what success means to you
• Be clear -- is success a goal or the way you life your life?
• Remember who you are and what you hold dear to you
• Find the courage to live your values on a daily basis
• Pay yourself first with daily compassionate self care: great food and water, exercise, quality sleep, good friends and relaxation.
• Know yourself, both your light and your dark side
• Gain the knowledge but then practice, practice, practice. It's the doing that will be transformative.
• De-stuff your life -- those of us who reside in the Western World have lives full of 'stuff'-- people, commitments, clutter, busyness . . .
• Realize your life is made up of your time, seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks and so on which is exactly what happens . . . and so on your life goes -- how do you want to spend each precious minute? What do you want to do with your time or in other words your life? Learn to minimize the waste of time which is essence is your life-- learn to say no: politely, gracefully, tactfully but with meaning
• Take charge of your life's blueprint, what are your needs / direction?
• Take what you want from your past & move forward. What is it that you will take forward?
• Use the power of a reframe and the magic of humor
• Connect with those around you and the environment
• Rejoice in every single moment -- good, bad & ugly

Personal responsibility

Our last post was about personal power

Wanted to share with you a quote from Stephen Covey which sums it up nicely:

"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide

how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us."

Exercise your personal power today, the more you exercise it, the stronger it will become

and the more confident you will be in using it

We would love to hear about your challenges and successes

The team at Nurses Self Care

Personal power = less work stress

A sense of control is one of the main factors in determining work place stress
Feeling in control minimizes stress
The interesting point here is that we are all capable of feeling in control, often however we choose not too
As a consequence we give our life over to others
Switch your personal power switch on
Its not about what others think about or say about you
Other people's opinion of you is none of your business
Don't get caught up in something you can't control
Take back your life today!!

Do you have examples of when you have exercised your personal power?
The team at Nurses Self Care